Wednesday, December 14, 2011

I say blah blah blah

The so-called blogging experts say you shouldn't write "why I haven't blogged" posts, but I figure you deserve an explanation.

If you are coming here in your free time to read my silly drivel and even check in on me (which I didn't realize until 10 minutes ago ... thank you!), then you are true friends.

I could wax poetic about writing and life, but I'll spare your eyes. (Save your good vision for wrapping presents, reading holiday cards that arrive in the mail and watching specials on TV.)

Basically, I just can't keep up the blogging game anymore -- and trying to do so has ruined my health.

I started blogging while expecting my five-year-old, and it was great to find a community of other dedicated moms from all philosophies, locations and walks of life. I depended on their support during my pregnancy and first months as a mother, and later to find out how other moms were walking that motherhood walk. Because I sure didn't know how to do it!

Maybe it's just me, but commercialization has changed that community a bit. There are the haves and have-nots of the blogosphere, and, well, I guess I'm just not as hilarious or poignant as the blog superstars (some of whom I "grew up with" as a new mom blogger), or maybe it's that I didn't have a hook or niche of some kind to catch much interest. I admit I compared myself to other bloggers. And I admit lack of success got me down.

Also, I have two little boys now who don't really nap, and they are just too cute and fun (and OK, needy) to ignore while I devote my attention to a computer screen. (Well, that's what they think I'm doing.)

So I stayed up in the wee hours after everyone was asleep to blog and comment.

And/or I ended up ignoring my children. (I am right now. But they are enjoying a new DVD and are happy for the moment.)

And still got nowhere with my blog.

So, whatever.

A five-year track record of five to six broken hours of sleep every night made me cranky and ill. I finally had to say enough was enough, turn off the computer for the night, get some rest and get well. Some people say they trained themselves to need very little sleep. I say that's awesome for them! But yeah it didn't really work for me.

After so much time away from my blogs, I feel guilty. Almost like How dare I try to post again? Who will even remember me now?!

But I made a deal with myself. If I focus on my health and family first, and I get a chance to post something, great! I'm just not going to care about how many posts I do every week. I'm not going to worry about stats. I'm not going to try to be popular. I know some of my blogging peeps would say it's blog suicide and you have to treat your blog like a business. I say blah blah blah. Tried it, failed, ruined my health and slighted my family, moving on.

Because even though I'm a writer, I don't have to be a great blogger.

Maybe I'll be able to give it another earnest try some time. Just not now.

Now, I need time to rest and time to enjoy my boys.

They are the reason for this blog, after all....

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Anonymous Audubon Ron said...

I completely understand. Your are still in my reader and you will stay there. So, as you you post, I read.

But, you are right, you have to prioritize your priorities. Okay, I'm redundant. :)

Anyway, I have to take a time-out now and again also.

December 14, 2011 at 5:48 PM  
Blogger Keetha Broyles said...

The blogging experts say all kinds of silly things!

There's even a book about blogging titled something like "No One Cares What you Had For Lunch."

I CARE - - - I love food so I LOVE to see what people are eating.

So - - - - there you have in a nutshell what I think about blogging experts and their little opinions!!!


December 14, 2011 at 5:48 PM  
Anonymous Stephanie said...

I hear you!

I don't post nearly as often as I used to...and I'm finding peace w/ that.

Enjoy your boys, your sleep, and your writing - three priorities you certainly won't regret in the future.

December 15, 2011 at 1:52 AM  
Anonymous DJ said...

With two boys, I never knew how you did it anyway. I can hardly manage a once a week post with only one son! I noticed you hadn't posted but figured you were busy with life, plus I saw your tweets so I knew you were. I say blog if you feel the need or the want, otherwise just be mom :) Nothing wrong with being a small fish in a big pond, that's all I will be too.

Happy Holidays to you and your family!

December 15, 2011 at 9:39 AM  
Blogger Freckle Face Girl said...

Well said! Like you, I ignore my blog often. I still plan to keep it and post at least once a month, but mainly I guess it is just on to the next phase... whatever that is.

December 15, 2011 at 9:06 PM  
Blogger CaraBee said...

I hear you, Holly. You've probably noticed my blogging has dropped off significantly in the last year. I just don't have the time to commit to it. I write a post here and there but I'm just not interested in making it a full time job and that's what it takes to be successful. My daughter comes first. I check in with my friends, like yourself, when I have time, but I just can't spend hours and hours reading blogs and commenting any more. All of which is to say, I get it. I'm still here. You're in my reader. When you write, I will read. I may not make it there that day, but I'll be along. Take care of you, my friend. And Merry Christmas!!

December 19, 2011 at 9:25 PM  
Blogger Caterina said...

Totally understand! Nothing is more important than family.

I stop blogging all the time. And have let go of my obsession with my stats. I've been blogging on and off for 8 years now....since 2003.

I look at it this way ---- I used to keep a Hello Kitty journal when I was 9 years old. And then continued, sans the Hello Kitty, journaling through junior high, high school, and beyond. Now I just happen to do it online.

Yes, I have attempted to write FOR my readers. Tried being funny....deep....informative. Failed, failed, FAILED. Now, I just journal. Sometimes thoughts and feelings, other times just whatever daily life brings on.

And completely agree, nothing is worth losing sleep over.

Go catch some zzzz's. Enjoy your boys! And if you happen to come back around here, I'll be here to read it :)

January 2, 2012 at 2:26 PM  
Blogger jodifur said...

This makes me sad. I understand. but it makes me sad. I hope to still see you around the blogosphere.

January 4, 2012 at 8:54 PM  
Blogger Kelli- AdventurezInChild'Rearing said...

yes yes yes! I totally get it - and btw not far from you on the latitude thing either- Boca Grande area -gulf coast :) and a writer also- travel and such (local magazines & news papers) now staying at home, doing my own thing w my 3 boys

February 4, 2012 at 11:15 AM  

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